Today I was talking to our neighbour who has one child (of seven) left at home—and he's fifteen. She was hosting the neighbourhood "stroll and snack" (where you stroll to a neighbour's house, visit and eat) and there were children running all around her yard, shouting and laughing. It really transformed our street. It was back to how it was about twenty years ago—before all the children grew up. That's really how long our street hasn't changed—all the houses are full of empty-nesters—most of them the same families from twenty years ago—and our two little girls are the only children on the street. My neighbour's eyes got misty as she told me how quickly children grow up and how you miss them when they do.
"That's funny," I told her. "I was just crying because my kids aren't grown up."
And it's true. I just about broke down sobbing (as in, I cried, but not ugly-cried) while making dinner. My family came over to celebrate Andrew's birthday (yes, again). I was making pizza dough and Miriam had found some popcorn and kept throwing it into my yeasty water while Rachel was running around like a hooligan.
Neither of them napped today, which meant that I didn't get a nap, either (even though we all tried—they were up so late last night!) and I was so tired and they were so tired and crazy. They were like ticking time bombs—the slightest thing would set either of them off crying. Apparently I was faring no better. It was just a bad afternoon.
"Yes. That's kind of how it goes," my neighbour assured me.
Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you got till it's gone...
"That's funny," I told her. "I was just crying because my kids aren't grown up."
And it's true. I just about broke down sobbing (as in, I cried, but not ugly-cried) while making dinner. My family came over to celebrate Andrew's birthday (yes, again). I was making pizza dough and Miriam had found some popcorn and kept throwing it into my yeasty water while Rachel was running around like a hooligan.
Neither of them napped today, which meant that I didn't get a nap, either (even though we all tried—they were up so late last night!) and I was so tired and they were so tired and crazy. They were like ticking time bombs—the slightest thing would set either of them off crying. Apparently I was faring no better. It was just a bad afternoon.
"Yes. That's kind of how it goes," my neighbour assured me.
Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you got till it's gone...
Artist: Adkins Trace
ReplyDeleteSong: You're Gonna Miss This
Album: American Man: Greatest Hits Vol. II
She was staring out that window, of that SUV
Complaining, saying I can't wait to turn 18
She said I'll make my own money, and I'll make my own rules
Mamma put the car in park out there in front of the school
Then she kissed her head and said I was just like you
You're gonna miss this
You're gonna want this back
You're gonna wish these days hadn't gone by so fast
These are some good times
So take a good look around
You may not know it now
But you're gonna miss this
Before she knows it she's a brand new bride
In a one-bedroom apartment, and her daddy stops by
He tells her It's a nice place
She says It'll do for now
Starts talking about babies and buying a house
Daddy shakes his head and says Baby just slow down
'Cause You're gonna miss this
You're gonna want this back
You're gonna wish these days hadn't gone by so fast
These are some good times
So take a good look around
You may not know it now
But you're gonna miss this
Five years later there's a plumber workin' on the water heater
Dog's barkin', phone's ringin'
One kid's cryin', one kid's screamin'
She keeps apologizin'
He says they don't bother me
I've got 2 babies of my own
One's 36, one's 23
Huh, it's hard to believe
But you're gonna miss this
You're gonna want this back
You're gonna wish these days hadn't gone by so fast
These are some good times
So take a good look around
You may not know it now
But you're gonna miss this
You're gonna miss this
Yeah, you're gonna miss this